My 3 Birthday Wishes
May 28, 2025
Yesterday was my birthday - which I spent in solitude at a favorite hotel in beautiful Santa Ynez because I wanted to end and begin a new year doing exactly what I wanted: writing my book, sitting in the warm sun, eating well.
One thing I have learned in the past ten years is listening to what I want and responding. And I wanted to be alone. I love my family dearly but traveling solo is one of my favorite things to do ever. Plus I needed to get away from the routine and distractions to reflect and work on my goals (mainly writing).
So, there I was with my dog and a few snacks, being fully present in the day, reflecting on the year I just had and making wishes for the next. Here are some thoughts I'd like to share:
Year 52 was about pushing my capabilities.
- I doubled my income as a coach, largely thanks to the Goop podcasts (which I asked to do). My 5-steps to a like you life has now reached millions of people! Lesson: ask, ask again, and again, follow up, follow up some more, and keep taking action till you get what you want.
- I got accepted to become an accredited death doula and will start that program later this year - not because I want to practice as a death doula. But because I have always been deeply comfortable with the spiritual side of death and dying and want to hone my skills at the practical side of it to better support my clients who are caregivers or dealing with diagnoses of their own, and for my friends and family who are going through it. Lesson: Follow your instincts for what's next even if it doesn't make logical sense.
- I survived the devastating Palisades fires which decimated my hometown including 87 homes and businesses of our friends. We were displaced and in traumatic uncertainty moving in and out of 10 hotels and Airbnbs in 3 months. Lesson: We are more capable than we know and can do really hard things.
For 53, here’s what I wish:
- This is the year I write and publish my book. My wish is that it reaches thousands (millions?) of people and helps them. I cannot wait to go on tour!
- I wish for health and strength. Turning 53 means I need to focus on my physical strength with weights and bone strength with calcium and I’m determined to make it all fun. We’ll see!
- I wish to continue to look for the good, use my time intentionally, and enjoy my life. All of these feel like radical acts of self-preservation in a world that is so far from what’s possible.
I invite you to make wishes too. Email me and share what you are wishing for! I’d love to hear! Let’s take our wishes seriously.
Sending lots of love and good mojo!
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